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Normally, Varendil and I stick to posting only RSPs on this site. We try not to insult the writer and try our damnest to never let our emotions go past the little box on our screen. Sometimes, this fails, but only when someone does really, really stupid OOCly and effects a whole lot of people.
Something like…faking their own death.
Marrowdark was the name of the last RSP we posted here on the Lament, a post we took down a day after we heard that he was actually dying in real life. We were told on the 24th that Marrowdark was dying in real life. On the 25th, we were told that he died. We put up a post, explaining why we removed the post that contained his RSP, because laughing at the dead isn’t really a nice idea, no matter how many Michael Jackson jokes there are.
A day goes by, Varendil and I mope about. Another day goes by and we are at the 27th. I log into Lanuria to get a few whispers from people I’ve never really talked to, but people who posted in the last post we had, our own little obituary for the now dead Matthew Graves. One of them I managed to screen shot.
I’ll let a few of you collect your bets that I’m sure you made on this situation before I continue.
I had a lengthy vent conversation with a few people who will most likely appear in the comments of this thread eventually, telling me of what happened. The phone of the deceased Matthew was called and the voice over the phone stated to the person that he was, indeed, Matthew. Later on, the phone of another person I talked to about this issue was called by Matthew, though he was disguising his voice, claiming to be someone else, one of Matthew’s friends. I talked to the person he called, who wishes to not be named at this time.
So. Marrowdark faked his death two days after being posted here, causing unneeded stress, drama and heartache to people who considered him a friend. His character name has been changed to Päin and he still resides on Moon Guard. Normally we don’t follow up on people we mention on the blog, but this case isn’t harassment, it’s information.
Normally, I’m a pretty relaxed girl. If this happened a different way, I wouldn’t be so upset. I could actually shrug this off and move on, forget the whole ordeal ever happened. But Marrowdark, now known as Päin, crossed a line that should never be crossed. You don’t mess with your friends like that, you don’t mess with people like that. You don’t fake your own death to gain sympathy nor do you fake your own death to get out a situation you’ve put yourself into. That doesn’t work in real life and it sure as hell doesn’t work on the internet, where anyone can use Google and find out the truth about a situation. I am just so angry at the situation right now, I don’t know what to do but scream and yell and curse at my computer screen.
YOU.
DON’T.
DO.
THIS.
SHIT.
You don’t fake your death in real life. You don’t fake your death on the Internet. People die every damn day and it leads to heartbreak, to tears and to grief. How can you call these people your friends and then tell them “lol i’m ded guys” and sleep with yourself at night?
Christ, and you think the snark and the lame jokes we do here are bad? Oh, no no no, those are nothing compared to claiming to be DEAD to the people who called you a FRIEND.
I can’t even think straight right now. But I promised these people I would make sure that this guy didn’t do these things to someone else and I intend to keep that promise. I hope that this post sheds some light on what has happened here in the past few days and I hope and pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster that this never happens again.
Life is too fucking valuable to joke around with.
Lanuria Dawnblade, a.k.a. Courtney Adler, aspires. She's an aspiring DM, aspiring photographer, and aspiring wife. She lives in Monroe, Wisconsin and complains about the weather far too much. She enjoys The Big Bang Theory and singing the songs from Glee.
Varendil Dawnblade, a.k.a. Taylor Vincent, is a 22-year old writer, student, World of Warcraft player, and 4th Edition DM. He lives in Monroe, Wisconsin with his fiancé and their jade plant, Esmeralda. He likes Douglas Adams and The Venture Bros. He hates Toni Morrison. Don't even ask. 
Well uh, to be honest I was being respectful and didn’t give a rat’s ass about him.
Now I’m pissed because that’s a douche move.
I take back that one other thing I said to Adonys. I hope MATTHEW ends up tossing a guy’s salad as his prison bitch. (If you’ve no idea what a tossed salad is…well uh…let’s just say, in my opinion? It’s up there with cock vore and breast penetration.)
June 27, 2010 at 8:41 pm
also take back* WTB EDIT BUTTON.
June 27, 2010 at 8:43 pm
what did you say to me? also BAZING! I’m on a roll this week…
June 27, 2010 at 9:09 pm
I was chewing you out in the other post, then exactly 60 seconds later I went back in to chew you out some more and Lan deleted the post and put this up.
June 27, 2010 at 9:11 pm
Marrowdark said on The Roleplayer’s Lament
June 27, 2010 at 3:57 AM
How dare you fucking think this is fake, who is sick enough to fake something like this? Just shut the hell up. You have no right to say anything, no right at all.
his reply to my unveiling of his fakeness.
June 27, 2010 at 9:17 pm
No one deserves rape. NO ONE.
June 28, 2010 at 4:17 am
No. No one deserves rape, no matter what the did.
Also, how is rimming as bad as cock vore or breast penetration?
June 28, 2010 at 11:05 pm
Tossing a salad also involves food items and sometimes shit.
Also any sexual act involving the ass just tends to down-right frighten me.
June 29, 2010 at 10:57 am
Dumb bastard…. got busted. Can’t wait to see the cruel comments to him.
June 27, 2010 at 8:44 pm
Ah yes, the “faked death” on the internet. I’ve been RPing since the stone age of AOL RPing back in the early 90s and have seen this no fewer than a dozen times. No joke. I’m not surprised in this case either. It’s a bitch move and it still remains as such.
Stupid little prick.
June 27, 2010 at 8:51 pm
Al, I’m pretty sure we’ve met if we both did AOL RP back in the day, and you’re right that that was a common and dare I say, fucking ridiculous move.
That being said, you always know that is the case when you see: “I’m his friend ___ and I’ll be playing his character now”.
June 27, 2010 at 8:57 pm
pound… sudden shift in loyalty there huh buddy?
June 27, 2010 at 9:33 pm
Shift in loyalty to what?
June 27, 2010 at 10:11 pm
Exactly. The whole “My friend died and I am taking up his characters” bullshit was enough to drive me out of that fail community for good. It happened in one community I was in three times in one week. I mean, really? Domino effect aside, bitch move.
I’m not surprised to see it in WoW. Same shit, different interface.
June 27, 2010 at 10:32 pm
Wartcleaver.
June 27, 2010 at 11:52 pm
Wartcleaver faked his death and name changed to “Neltharion”.
June 28, 2010 at 12:22 am
Let us not forget Beruen’s faked suicide and the big-ass in-game funeral his friends planned?
June 28, 2010 at 12:55 am
I miss you from time to time, you know. You had some pretty grandiose tales, and I mean that in a good way.
June 28, 2010 at 3:20 am
Mmhi. Me again. Yeah, we were all pretty fucking pissed when we found this shit out. I really don’t know what the fuck he was thinking, but screwing with people’s heads like this just proves he’s a sick little bastard that needs some gods damed counselling. I’m ashamed to even have known him. And I’d like to thank Lan and Var for helping us bring the situation to light. Screw you Matt. I hope a rabid dachsund eats your testicles.
June 27, 2010 at 9:11 pm
I’d like to re-iterate. Rabid. FUCKING. -DACHSUND-.
June 27, 2010 at 9:25 pm
I guess he’s a real… *puts on sunglasses* huntard. *rimshot*
June 27, 2010 at 9:14 pm
YYYYYYEEEEEEEEAAAAAAHHHHH! -Insert The Who here.-
June 27, 2010 at 9:32 pm
“I WOULD HAVE GOTTEN AWAY WITH IT IF IT WASN’T FOR YOU MEDDLING KIDS!!!” marrowgar after seeing this thread
June 27, 2010 at 9:31 pm
lol u got marrowdark confused with marrowgar its understandble though
June 28, 2010 at 7:28 am
I suddenly feel like shit putting up that whole thing about putting him in my prayers. I actually had my guild give a moment of silence for the guy because it’s painful when a role-player dies. There are already people who consider this hobby “unhealthy,” and to lose someone like that is hard. Recently, I did lose a friend (of course, it was to cancer) and I battle cancer everyday, myself. Would I want my friends to play my characters after I pass on? No. I don’t think they would want to, either — in order to preserve my memory.
Coming from someone who battles death on a daily basis: Marrowdark you’re a fucking douchewaffle-fucknugget.
June 27, 2010 at 9:39 pm
I was browsing Livejournal and felt as if this is what we’re all doing at the moment.
http://pics.livejournal.com/isteillia/pic/002fp0z2
June 27, 2010 at 9:48 pm
I love you.
June 27, 2010 at 9:59 pm
Soar with me, Lesbian Seagull?
June 27, 2010 at 10:05 pm
HAHA! Glad my GIFS are going to good use!
June 28, 2010 at 1:52 am
Why, I dare say, he’s more alive now than ever!
June 27, 2010 at 9:58 pm
Yeah so. I hope you got what you wanted, Matt. If that’s your name that is, you’ve lied about everything else. Death is serious shit, you don’t play people like that. You wanted the limelight, it seems, well here it is.
People cried for you, I had to comfort people over this, and see them in pain. Then we find out we’ve been duped?
Fuck you. With something sharp, sideways, up the ass.
You had no right. Your character thinks he’s God, and apparently so do you. Well guess what? You’re not. You’re human. Barely.
June 27, 2010 at 9:58 pm
this isn’t human this guy is a monster… life is a precious thing not to be joked around with
June 27, 2010 at 10:04 pm
Calling this joke of a waste of flesh is an insult to everyone with something resembling a shred of decency.
And that’s a lot coming from me.
June 27, 2010 at 11:52 pm
I didn’t really want to be the skeptic when the news was first broke but I gotta say it did seem sketch to me from the start. It did seem like something a “sixteen-year-old” boy would do as a haha I’ll show you. The part that made it sketch though, to me, was the whole fact that it was oh he’s dead but someone is still going to stick around and play his account.
Sickening.
June 27, 2010 at 10:06 pm
No.. I’m 16 and find this to be apalling, i would find it apalling for a 13 year old to do this. This is like when a 5 year old holds their breath because they didn’t get what they wanted. I find it fitting that this bastard not only spent $25(or however much it costs) on a name change -AND- lost, what I assume to be, most of his friends.
June 27, 2010 at 11:00 pm
What makes it better is he spent $25 for no reason. People still know it’s him, and he’s still going to be Moon Guard’s very own Most Hated.
June 27, 2010 at 11:57 pm
I think that spot is still Relennius’s.
also I like how he based his character of Pain then renames his Character pain after his ‘death’. HOW DOES I HIDE?
June 28, 2010 at 12:04 am
By continuing to shamelessly rip off a crappy anime that makes Dragonball Z Post-Cell look like War and Peace, of course.
June 28, 2010 at 12:07 am
What did Relennius do, out of curiosity? (I’m not on the American realms but I still like to just know of and tell so and so ‘avoid this creeper’ in general)
June 28, 2010 at 5:07 am
isn’t he VOIDHANDPENIS?
June 28, 2010 at 12:57 pm
So wait, since when am I Moon Guard’s most hated?
Best-known douchebag maybe, but far from most hated…
As for what I did, I tried role-playing a High Elf, screwed up, and was an ass to a bunch of people about it, very publicly.
However, I seem to have retained most of my friends. Matter of fact, I can only think of one I might have lost from something related to that, and I’m not even sure about that.
July 3, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Mild shame of being on RPL, especially when it’s mitigated by how many people dislike us
versus
Internet rage at seeing you fake your own death due to above mild shame.
Cunning plans, thinking through, et cetera.
June 27, 2010 at 10:13 pm
WHAT CUNNING PLANS.
HE JUST PRETENDED TO DROP DEAD THEN GOT CAUGHT TWO DAYS LATER. fasjkfakjf.
June 27, 2010 at 11:00 pm
Sarcasm dewd
June 28, 2010 at 3:34 pm
Greatest fucking troll ever.
June 27, 2010 at 10:35 pm
Hoooly shit. Yeah, y’all have the right to be pissed. That’s really fucking low.
June 27, 2010 at 11:06 pm
I hope everyone who knows this fuck immediately disowns his sorry ass.
June 27, 2010 at 11:14 pm
I lack the words to describe how angry this makes me.
Unacceptable, intolerable.
June 27, 2010 at 11:16 pm
Dear Grimdark the weeaboo buttfucker:
Now I hope you really do die of a brain hemorrhage for being such an infant.
June 27, 2010 at 11:42 pm
Yeah.. Unthinkable ravagings of horrific proportions for the bastard.
June 28, 2010 at 12:04 am
i’ve never seen so much concentrated hate…. ever!
LET LOOSE THE RABID DACHSHUNDS OF WAR!
June 28, 2010 at 12:04 am
You haven’t seen me on a bad day, then.
June 28, 2010 at 12:12 am
-Insert Germanic Shouting of a Nazi-esk nature here, as a flood of slavering dachsund hellhounds are released to the world. Be afraid. Be very afraid.-
June 28, 2010 at 12:49 am
Moarte, Moarte Pe cei slabi, fratii mei!
Wait that’s Romanian hold on.
Tod, Tod den Schwachen, meine Brüder!
June 28, 2010 at 12:59 am
GO FORTH, MEIN DACHSUND! The testicles and/or ovaries of the world’s douches are yours for the devouring!
June 28, 2010 at 2:39 pm
Kay, just got back to finally being able to check RPL and all my other such things.
This…I will not lie, I was laughing at the audacity Marrow-dupe had to try and pull that off, but I share the absolute rage of everyone else here.
Hope he learns from this, but I highly doubt it.
June 28, 2010 at 12:21 am
“I hope everyone who knows this fuck immediately disowns his sorry ass.” Haha, honestly I could totally see that happening. Betcha his parents don’t know shit about his online “life”.
June 28, 2010 at 1:05 am
Please, keep in mind my mild ignorance of this whole event. Everything I’ve learned about this comes from reading over this post, and the “obituary”.
To play devil’s advocate, has anyone stopped to consider that this Marrow-bloke is a kid, or has some other mental-defect where he was not aware of the consequences? Obviously this was a horribly thought out idea, horribly executed; understandably it’s an insult to anyone whoever lost someone close. But do you curse out the ten year old boy when he commits a social faux pas?
Just my take on the whole shenanigan.
June 28, 2010 at 1:33 am
Actually, no, you don’t. You just shake your head slowly at his guardians and move on. That said, the whole thing renders me speechless. It’s stupid and pointless and getting pissed about is too… So…
June 28, 2010 at 2:02 am
Devil’s Advocate card played well. However, if this was someone who didn’t know the consequences of their actions, I would assume there would be another person on his side to monitor what they were doing. If so, no, the person in question wouldn’t be at fault and instead, it would be the person who was watching (or possible neglecting their watch) them give them the idea.
But there have been others who ‘knew’ this person on a better level than I or many others here and have vouched that this was his idea alone and it was all just a REALLY BAD idea.
Perhaps this was his way of a cry for help and there was more going on to his actions than we’re let on. This subject came up after I gave more thought into the situation. However, if that is the case, what it all boils down to is that it was all done in a horribly wrong way and clearly got WAY out of hand.
I still hope he wises up and reflects on what he’s done, but I still very highly doubt it…
June 28, 2010 at 2:18 am
You raise a valid point, Nuellen. I honestly can’t think of a proper response right now.
Perhaps this does need some looking in to. If he’s a minor, someone ought to talk to his guardians about this.
June 28, 2010 at 2:22 am
That is, assuming his guardians aren’t apart of the problem… Not meaning to shoot the idea down. Someone who knows him really SHOULD try to find out why he did it.
I don’t expect it to be anyone reading these comments, and I don’t blame them.
What he did was absolutely wrong, and the consequences of what was to follow were not completely thought through, and every thought and comment is justified in any right. But I can’t help but think that what was done just to cover some misguided shame about RP. But then again, I don’t really know the guy, so my opinion is my own.
June 28, 2010 at 2:39 am
He seems capable enough of thinking to go pay for a name change to dodge the consequences, download a roleplaying addon and implement stuff in his character, so…I dunno, I personally only have a mild mental disability so I can’t speak for someone with something more extreme but I don’t think age or disability make this any better at all.
June 28, 2010 at 5:13 am
He could be a kid, but I don’t give a shit either way. You do it, and I’ll hold you responsible, I could care less about your mental disabilities or your age. If you use that as a excuse, well, you and your parents are just even worse people in my eyes.
June 28, 2010 at 10:27 am
He isn’t a kid; at all. He’s a grown man-child. But, about the mental defect, I have no clue. After this, I also don’t care enough to find out.
June 28, 2010 at 2:41 pm
I can actually see someone with a major mental defect doing something like this. I know someone who probably would have if she had a clue what death was or why it affects people so much, or how to fake her own death.
July 3, 2010 at 2:32 pm
er, meant that to be a reply to Vierdiel’s original comment.
July 3, 2010 at 2:33 pm
Please. Am I the onlyone here who realized before the age of 6 that this isn’t something joke about?
And I doubt that comes from my granddad who died before I was even born let me tell you. That was because I had a decend upbringing and was taught to respect other people. And I was smart enough to realize that death is a bad thing not to be joked about.
I mean… I didn’t wanna endanger my presents for the Saint Nicholas celebration… ((original santa))
October 12, 2010 at 8:39 am
That’s really disgusting. Something like that happened on deviantArt 3 years ago, and it affected a lot of people. (http://encyclopediadramatica.com/The_Great_Sonic-cide_of_2007) Funny as it is now, a lot of people were hurt by it.
Faking your death for attention is NEVER cool. You don’t know if it will push someone off an already delicate edge.
June 28, 2010 at 1:56 am
shit, i missed an opportunity oh well…
looks like he really was.. *puts on shades* the messiah. YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
June 28, 2010 at 2:04 am
… That was clever. I like that.
June 28, 2010 at 2:08 am
he was early for his rebirth but yeah… that shit just happened.
June 28, 2010 at 2:12 am
this coreycaffeine fellow is me
June 28, 2010 at 2:29 am
Dear god, someone call el papa
June 28, 2010 at 2:26 am
“You don’t fake your death in real life.”
Actually, you do. What do you think Elvis did?
June 28, 2010 at 2:23 am
Ah. So you too have seen BubbaHo-Tep then?
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0281686/
October 12, 2010 at 8:53 am
Another thought, can we see his actual RSP. I’m curious if it was bad enough to warrant his level of a lie.
June 28, 2010 at 2:46 am
They put it back up on the front page, I think.
June 28, 2010 at 3:01 am
It’s like two posts ago. It wasn’t nearly that bad – I tweeted to that effect last night.
Here ya go.
June 28, 2010 at 9:33 am
BREAKING NEWS!: his armory id dow so either the links dead, he name changed again, or he deleted
June 28, 2010 at 5:05 am
Matthew, I hope you read this and in your just rewards, you realize just what you lost, when you pulled this stunt. There were many a’people upset over your untimely demise and rest assured, I was ready and prepared fully, to deal with them all. The hours on the phone, spent talking about family, meant jack to you, didn’t they? All the time I spent, making sure at the end of the night, because you were sick, that you went to bed okay — stupid on my end. I considered you my family, my brother and you were one of my best friends. The faith I had placed into you and the rest of humanity, dwindles now, because of your ill-gotten actions and disregard for friendship it’s self… Did you think we wouldn’t find out? Did you think you were going to play this off and come out of this rut like some-sort of hero? Shame on you and shame on the very air you breath and you know what? Turn around is fair play, I’m going to sit here and wait for karma to come about and in the end, we all know that you’ll be the one suffering, not us. Good luck and have a good life mate.
June 28, 2010 at 9:31 am
Karma’s already began teabagging him. This stunt, from all accounts, as pretty much cost him any friend he had on WoW, has made him a laughing stock among the roleplay community twice over, has revealed him to be an egocentric borderline-sociopath, and has probably cost him any chance he ever had of getting any roleplay deeper than wizard robes and hats.
June 28, 2010 at 10:16 am
I was said best friend and all of this could have gone a lot worse, than it already did. I’m just amazed though, that he pulled this past me and I’m sorry, I apologize that I didn’t catch the warning signs sooner than now. He won’t be doing this again, though, thats been made certain of. He’s either left the server or he deleted his characters and has left the World of Warcraft, completely.
June 28, 2010 at 10:47 am
And good fucking riddance to him.
June 28, 2010 at 2:44 pm
Look, how about this: we just don’t RP with this idiot. He ‘died’, his RSP shows he god-modes….
For the first time ever, can some of Moon Guard actually… well… shun someone? Hope so, ’cause this figurehead of idiots everywhere deserves it.
June 28, 2010 at 10:16 am
Moon Guard has shunned many people in the past. You don’t need to call a Landsmeet about it.
June 28, 2010 at 1:33 pm
Yeah, and most of ‘em ended up over on Wyrmrest Accord.
June 28, 2010 at 3:34 pm
Haha, so true.
June 28, 2010 at 10:53 pm
Yeah, but we managed to run Annexious back off to Moon Guard.
Tiny win for WrA that day.
June 30, 2010 at 4:59 pm
…He actually came back to rp with his friends?
Also you still have to run the pedobear from WRA and MG. Go, go, go.
June 30, 2010 at 8:10 pm
Also, I can’t reply to Gizzy in the thread for some reason so, basically Relennius is just some narcissistic douchebag teenager, and unlike Annexious he’s pretty much a bad no matter what people are discussing.
He also said that women won’t mind rape if they have loose sexual views. Which makes me want to draw, hang and quarter him with a shoelace because my old friend was non-consented two times.
June 28, 2010 at 10:33 am
Women won…
…
>.o
June 28, 2010 at 12:31 pm
Also, apologies to Annexious because that came off as a bit insulting. You’re a cool dude but you have your egotistic-jerk moments like all of us. :>
June 28, 2010 at 12:40 pm
Sorry. My brain kinda stopped processing that sentence about women not minding having someone forcing them to have sex if they were less than strictly monogamous due to the sheer stupidity and fail…
I’m sure it must’ve hurt to type.
June 28, 2010 at 12:47 pm
A bit. Then it generated into rage hence another of my wacky pull-out-of-the-ass insults.
Ps: Adronys, I’m not Zefo1 or Odd_cephalod. I don’t even rp on WRA or SWC.
June 28, 2010 at 1:01 pm
i got temp banned from the forums, i have no clue what you’re talking about
June 29, 2010 at 2:33 am
Ugh he can go die.
Reminds me of a wanker on Steamwheedle who kept making alts to hound and hound and hound someone for sexual details (Who was already afraid of stalking and just wanted to make him go away) and tried to claim what eventually happened was consensual…
June 29, 2010 at 6:44 am
You asked me if Relennius was VOIDHANDPENIS, Adronys. :[
…..And damn, Gizzy. That’s scary.
June 29, 2010 at 10:55 am
Yeah :<.
And since the guy doesn't seem to have a Chrísto rep (Worst Alliance pervert on Steamwheedle ever) I dunno if I can go AVOID X HE SUKS without making myself look like a wanker/liar (Hate being called a liar/don't wanna stir drama that just ends up making me look bad).
June 29, 2010 at 2:45 pm
That goes for you too, Gizzy. You’re free to send me an ingame mail or a PST sometime and we can discuss whatever you think is wrong with me. You might be enlightened, or it might give you some ammo with which to do some actual damage to me.
Fire away.
July 3, 2010 at 2:41 pm
lol. Did you read what I said in that thread at all?
I figured someone would bring this up, and I apologize deeply for any misunderstandings as a result of what I said, but the truth of it is is you got what I said backwards.
I’m sorry for your friend, but I have a couple of good friends who are rape victims themselves, and what I said was based off observing how they think and act. Neither of them seems to carry permanent scars from the event(s), and both of them are far from uptight.
Also if you consider me a bad, tell me what at, and you and I can go PvP or raid together and we’ll see how well we perform, kay? I’d be glad to sit around and discuss any issue on which you question my viewpoints, publicly or privately, until you’re satisfied with the answers.
Y’know what, no, I’ll be on soon and I’ll see if you’re around then.
July 3, 2010 at 2:39 pm
The fact you know rape victims doesn’t change the fact you made an extremely ignorant statement.
Some victims don’t show how much they hurt on the outside. Some take longer to recover. Some people try to tell themselves it didn’t hurt as bad or wasn’t bad to try and make themselves feel better. Some people engage in promiscuity afterwards for a feeling of control, or ‘cleansing’ of the incident. A woman being promiscuous does not mean the assault hurts any less. Its still rape. Its still a violation. Their lack of ‘uptight’ness could be a sign of a permenant scar in itself.
The fact you know someone of a minority group doesn’t mean you’ll never show your ignorance or bias (Not saying you have bias but its an example) against them. Please think about what you say in future.
July 3, 2010 at 3:25 pm
Did you see the original statement?
I hope you have evidence of your own to back up what you’re saying, though. You’re calling my friends whores and saying that they’re doing what they’re doing just because they can’t come to grips with what happened.
I was more trying to get at, they have odd fetishes. One of them has a bondage fetish, for instance. She’s had it since before she was raped, as far as I know.
Now, I understand there could be complex psychology behind that too – maybe trying, through getting tied up and bent over a table, to make the pain of rape seem miniscule – but other explanations, such as the simple fact that they haven’t been scarred for life, might just be as likely.
July 3, 2010 at 3:37 pm
No, but people tend to remember crap like ‘lol rape doesn;t hurt x as bad’, I doubt someone just made it up or remembered it wrong.
I didn’t call your friends whores, I’m not a freaking misogynist. Fyi I don’t see promiscuoty as a bad coping mechanism to use unless they;re unprotected, in which case I’m still not gonna go omg!hoar because I’m smarter then that. I put uptight in comma’s because I find its a stupid term anyhow.
…Rape fetish and being raped is extremely different. People don’t choose their fetishes. I find rape abhorrent, I hate rape culture, I do my research, I’ve suffered and I still perhaps have a bit of raptophillia in me but at the same time the disgust kills whatever pleasure I derive from it. People don’t choose their fetishes, how is it relevant? In a rape fantasy or roleplay the person still has control. They don’t have to fear what kind of nasty assault is going to happen to them, whether it’ll get worse, whether some dickhead won’t stop at the safety word and give them an injury, whether they’ll be _killed_.
There’s always a bit that hurts. Think of a traumatic incident or grief. You’ll still feel bad when you look back on when your dog died or whatever, but you’ve moved on. Doesn’t mean there isn’t some part that hurts or that being promiscuous to begin with made it any easier.
July 3, 2010 at 4:04 pm
People don’t choose their fetishes. People don’t choose what kind of food they like, either, but having a bad experience with a given food can make their subconscious think “Hey, this food isn’t good at all because of ‘x’!”
One would think, then, that rape – something that by all but a few accounts that I’ve heard leaves horrible psychological scars – would really turn someone off from bondage and simulated rape, but it hasn’t necessarily…
Also, saying that “someone indulges in promiscuity” is a nicer way to call them a whore. What I originally said – neither of the two cases I know is uptight – is far from that. I know what you were trying to say, but – like you’ve said – gotta watch what you say, because words can be twisted.
Now, to clear things up, my personal view on rape is that it is an act worthy of capital punishment, preferably by the bloodiest, slowest, and most painful torture possible, because of what it usually does. It is the worst crime out there.
July 3, 2010 at 4:20 pm
And some people, in a way, because strangely obsessed with it, or want to explore that kind of content to try and understand it. I can’t tell you why. Maybe the mind is trying to desensitize itself but that doesn’t mean they’re affected any less. The book Twilight Children from Torey Hayden gives a good idea (Spoilers and triggery child abuse warning) – one of the girls constantly makes lewd remarks and giggles at fecal matter, even though fecal matter was involved in the assault. She was still affected badly. When the therapist eventually _did_ convince her to not bury her thoughts (Dissociative identity disorder was involved too) she tried to commit suicide several times and had to be locked up and restrained for a while. She also constantly made rape accusations at the staff in the centre, but it was apparently so that they’d stop touching her because she couldn’t stand it period. She also had HUGE control issues, hence getting into huge rages/mind games over being made to do even little things like colour a picture. I can’t speak for your friends, but sometimes interests just…Don’t change even when shit happens. People get in bad racing car accidents and still go back to the sport they love after recovering. Hardly the same but eh…
Me saying they indulge in promiscuity isn’t loaded with the same implications of you saying they’re not uptight, which is a word that can be taken as snark against ‘prude’ish woman. I don’t see how saying someone indulges in x is any different from saying they indulge in chocolate or video games or whatever, just means to me to get into something you enjoy.
July 3, 2010 at 4:32 pm
The difference between being in a car accident and going back to racing and being raped and then liking bondage are. Uh, two completely different things.
When someone decides to go racing, they do so understanding that an accident, which could cause crippling injury or death, is possible. When an accident occurs, well, it was a risk they took and they were willing to take it.
When someone gets raped, that’s completely different. It is not a risk due to a hobby; it is not a risk anyone can really predict or prevent.
‘Uptight’ does imply prudish, you’re right. However, both terms are insulting to the people they are used to describe.
‘Promiscuous’ means something different. It implies loose morals and sleeping around, not off-the-wall sexual practices. And. Uh. Calling someone a whore, or a synonym for a whore, is slightly nastier than mere snark.
I’m just going to ignore the part about the fictional rape victim with a lot of problems other than rape that are serious, serious mental illnesses.
I’m also going to go back to something you said in an earlier comment that I completely missed:
“In a rape fantasy or roleplay the person still has control. ”
No, they don’t. That’s what the bondage fetish is all about – not having control of what’s going on. People like that enjoy the feeling of helplessness and lack of control (or so they say).
July 3, 2010 at 5:08 pm
I was meaning more in the sense that a bad experience doesn’t nessesarily put someone off something, for whatever reason. Sorry if it came out 76387837th shades of wrong.
…She wasn’t a fictional rape victim. Seriously.
Okay, never seen or heard of promiscuous to be anything other then a technical term but I’ll make a note of it.
Maybe so, but in a rape fantasy if you start getting scared and blurt out the safety word the other person is gonna stop. In a real rape they aren’t. That’s what I’m getting at. One is pretend and can be left if it gets too triggery, the other…Well you’re done for unless they don’t kill you.
July 3, 2010 at 5:21 pm
Alright guys, let’s cut out the rape talk now. It’s been spamming my phone all night!
July 3, 2010 at 5:30 pm
Srry :>
July 3, 2010 at 5:37 pm
Sorry ’bout that.
I’m sure our conversation is just the thing you want cluttering up your website
July 3, 2010 at 5:42 pm
People like this make me glad I got off Moon Guard. I had toons there years before it became “the only real RP server”, and when I noticed it was filling up with weirdoes (including two people who transferred from my home realm, Blackwater Raiders, and CLAIMED it was just for the RP, because they’d never stalk me, right? Especially since one of them accused ME of stalking), I said “screw it” and deleted all 13 of my level-10+ toons there and remade them elsewhere. (I wasn’t about to shell out $25 each to transfer them all, even though the grind to level 10 is one of the most boring things in WoW.)
June 28, 2010 at 10:34 am
I hear you on the 1-10 grind. What I do is fire up the SNES and play some old favorites while I right-click a mob and afk, eating between if need be.
June 28, 2010 at 12:31 pm
i’m thinking of perfoming a transfer to wyrmrest accord
June 28, 2010 at 1:00 pm
Don’t look at me, I’m a SoE resident. XD Love it to death but (like I said on the SoE WCSues thread) when we get a Sue they don’t halfass it.
June 28, 2010 at 1:21 pm
… Huh. And I thought the 79-comment veritable Sarlacc pit of neckbeardery from that other post was bad.
You guys just can’t keep the drama away lately, can you? Yeesh.
June 28, 2010 at 2:03 pm
If you think he faked his death because of the blog, you’re an idiot.
I do not see the significance of some kid faking his death. Don’t hang out with him anymore. Problem solved.
June 28, 2010 at 3:20 pm
QUICK! Someone find his new character name!
June 28, 2010 at 3:40 pm
He either deleted his character or transferred offa Moon Guard, I’m afraid.
June 28, 2010 at 4:07 pm
Awwww, damnitall.
June 29, 2010 at 6:46 am
So he followed the same impulse the halftards who participated in the Sonicide did when Encyclopedia Dramatica called them out and deleted everything in shame?
July 1, 2010 at 12:34 pm
Naw, he’s in WrA or so I’ve heard.
July 1, 2010 at 2:04 pm
i bet this hits 100 posts today
June 28, 2010 at 3:58 pm
I really hope that the friends of this worthless meatbag beat him with rusty blunt objects, an entire large frozen tuna (spiky end first) or with something else funny and painful with all due haste. To reiterate what was said above,
YOU DO NOT PULL THIS SHIT.
Make him pay for it, for all of us. Give him an extra whack for me, or I’ll feel left out, and I don’t wanna feel left out.
June 28, 2010 at 4:23 pm
I get the indignation and stuff from his friends, but it seems a lot of these comments are coming from people who were told about it and didn’t even know who the guy was. It’s kind of silly to be demanding blood when you didn’t know he existed until he [really did] no longer did.
Is he a knob? Yeah, but this whole “he needs to get raped by rusty nails and made to eat brats filled with shit” is a bit much. He punished himself by acting like a child.
June 28, 2010 at 5:45 pm
Yeah. And never make brats filled with shit. Waste of good brats, and brats are arguably the greatest food ever. ‘sides pizza.
June 28, 2010 at 6:07 pm
You are such a fatty, I swear to God.
June 28, 2010 at 6:30 pm
If you cook them in Honey Weiss they’d probably taste good, but that’s because Honey Weiss makes everything taste good.
But seriously, some of this rage has me wondering if people are mad at being mad. He’s a loser kid that did something retarded; to his friends that sucks, to the rest of us it’s like someone said earlier in the comments: shit happens all the time.
AOL was notorious for suicide-claimants.
June 28, 2010 at 7:15 pm
Oh god yes. I remember one girl who I RPed with regularly did the whole “lol I r ded” thing and even sent me a fake funeral card signed by her “best friend and your new role play partner if you want it, Jessica”. We had been pen pals (yes, I was young) for a long time and I knew her handwriting. I called her house and she answered. Yeah, needless to say, this instance brought back memories.
And yeah, people are mad at being mad. Remember, everything happens to everybody on the internet!
…I still hope he steps on something rusty, just saying.
June 28, 2010 at 9:22 pm
brats with sauerkraut and spicy mustard on a split open piece of french bread. it’s like world war II but way better and more delicious
June 28, 2010 at 8:26 pm
Fucking hell, stop. XD
I’m hungry just thinking about it!
July 1, 2010 at 12:33 am
That would’ve been good if you didn’t include mustard, sauces do nothing but hide the taste of the food. >:[
July 1, 2010 at 11:59 am
I’m one of the most hateful, death-wishing people I know and even I don’t wish death. It’s a little disturbing, honestly.
June 28, 2010 at 7:18 pm
100 posts!
June 28, 2010 at 8:20 pm
He (pain) has moved to Wyrmrest Accord, his name is still pain but I think the A has a different mark over it now.
June 30, 2010 at 7:28 pm
I hope we can all take this as a lesson that…
Wait, what lesson CAN we derive from this?
Uh. Well, faking your own death is bad, yes, but that’s a given.
Silvermoon RPers are idiots? Well, no, that’s a given too.
Wait. I just realized that the only reason this is even notable is because of the fact that this blog covered it. Tragic for those involved, but in the scope of things, don’t you think people, especially on drama-laden, tight-knit communities like say, most of the cliques of RPers on MG, have faked their own deaths before?
The more I think about it, the more I convince myself this is an utterly mundane experience and you can’t expect much above the level of a Gaia or Livejournal community out of bad Silvermoon RPer communities.
Not to smear EVERYONE in SMC, I’m sure some of you are fine people. But obviously the specific people who would get pointed out on this blog are examples of “the bad Silvermoon”, and I remain staunchly convinced that is the majority Silvermoon.
June 30, 2010 at 8:10 pm
Sad but true. Such a gorgeous city, such great lore behind it, all gone to pot because of people who can’t RP their way out of a wet tissue.
July 1, 2010 at 12:36 pm
i can rp my way INTO a wet tissue if that’s good enough
July 1, 2010 at 5:58 pm
Well. That sure caught me off-guard.
July 1, 2010 at 8:23 pm
I’d just like to say that I was feeling very bad for Kelandre/Calexsis, who obviously felt so bad for him. (.. Well, before the whole, y’know, we found out he’s alive situation. )
And then I find out he faked his own death to get attention, and possibly try and make Lanuria and Varendil feel bad. ‘AHAHAHA, I’LL SHOW YOU!’ is probably what he was thinking.
And I sort of understand why he would do this, he probably felt horrible, but.. FAKING YOUR OWN DEATH? And not only that, doing it completely half-assed? Someone call in Dr. Phil. — No, no. Call in Jerry Springer. That way we get to see a brawl.
July 1, 2010 at 11:46 am
Oh, and, if we do get to see that brawl, Kelandre, SEND IN THE RABID DACHSHUNDS!! — Oh, can we have Rabid Chihuahua’s aswell?
July 1, 2010 at 11:51 am
And Scottish Terriers.
July 1, 2010 at 12:36 pm
What happened to rabid pit bulls, they’re good dogs, they can take off the back of your skull with one bite.
July 1, 2010 at 2:03 pm
let’s just send a pack of rabid mutts and call it a day
July 1, 2010 at 5:59 pm
The lesson to be learned from this “No one online is your friend”.
There are clear psychological indications which prevent people from really being friends over the internet. But we’ll skip the college education session.
Here is the non-sugar coated breakdown. Matt, was tired of his so called “online friends”. To the point he wanted nothing to do with any of you. So, he chose to lie and “die” in a traditional online manner. A fresh start where he could contact those he really wanted to talk to, meaning not everyone.
OR
Matt is a well played troll and this was all a carefully conducted plan. Since it did happen in connection to his profile on this site.
You get to decide. He wanted nothing to do with anyone so he lied to you all. Or he was doing it all as a plan against this site, which is why he was so carelessly caught.
Ultimately his online friends are left knowing this … You meant nothing to him, so you were never his friend. Just another person online.
July 1, 2010 at 2:50 pm
Quote Smlin’ Bob: “The lesson to be learned from this “No one online is your friend”.
There are clear psychological indications which prevent people from really being friends over the internet.”
Totally agree to that btw. I just cba with caring what people over the internet think of me. I am friendly and always try to be polite. Or blunt to get a point across at times. But I really donot consider anyone on WoW to be my friend. Eventhough I have played it since the start with some people I know since then. Untill I have met you face to face irl. I cannot think of you as a real friend. At best I think of you as an internet friend. But not a real friend.
October 12, 2010 at 9:24 am
There is literally nothing about this that isn’t funny.
July 3, 2010 at 10:03 pm
THAT WAS UNEXPECTED.
July 5, 2010 at 8:00 am
You know, before reading all of these comments, I’d have said this Marrowdark person was a pretty ham-fisted troll as his work seems sloppy. But after all the uproar his stunt caused, I’m hesitant to call him a bad troll.
He made his mark, after all.
Though if he were really trolling, I doubt he’d have forked up money to get a name change. Dem trolls love their attention.
July 7, 2010 at 2:41 am
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